This was one of those weeks. Today I got word that the brother of a friend from the old neighborhood passed away. Truthfully, I'd only met the gentleman once, and ironically enough it was at a funeral for another close friend's mother. He seemed like a nice guy and was right around my age.
The other death this week was Merle Haggard. One of country musics biggest stars. I never knew much of his music, but when I was in Nashville, many of the groups I saw kept playing his music. He is one of the guys that were huge when I was growing up and somehow it just kind of hit me.
Then, last night, Donna had gone up to bed to read and Ben was up studying. As I was turning out the lights downstairs, I started thinking about how empty this house is going to be when Ben moves out. And I thought about how many memories are held within these walls. Memories of those tiny bodies dancing in the living room. It made me wistful and sad.
So I can't emphasize enough how important it is to:
- Tell the family you live with and see everyday that you love them. Everyday.
- Forgive people and shed your anger baggage.
- Dance to the radio in the kitchen
- Take care of yourself, but also
- Eat too much ice cream once in a while
- Take that spontaneous trip to Nashville or (fill-in-the-blank). You'll never forget it.
- Listen to the J. Geils Band LOUD
- Hug your kids. Laugh with them.
- Work hard, like you're paying yourself.
- Over tip that good waitperson.
- Read the classics, or contemporary, or local, or poetry or the back of a cereal box, but READ!
- Pay somebody's coffee forward at work.
- Create something. Journal, paint, sing, play, build, architect, design, cook, brew, sculpt. It is an expression of yourself that wants to be released and will make you a better person.
- Lose some weight - get in shape. You'll feel better and live longer, God willing.
- Sing when you're alone.
- Pray often and hard
- Have coffee or lunch with that old friend.
- Laugh at stupid cat videos.
- Grow those dreads, shave your head, color your hair, join a book club.
I don't mean to preach, it's just that life is way too short to waste. Only you can make it into what it could be. Leave a good story behind. I have to go now, because the radio's on in the kitchen.