It always dredges up great memories that we shared together, which is a good thing. The down-side to it though is that it sparks me to thinking that we'll never be able to make any new ones. What's done is done. That also is one of the last things he said to me when I was telling him how we'd never have the chance to make new ones as we both reminisced about the past. He said "You can't go back," which is true. I'm not sure that's what I want to do, but my tendency is to color the past better than it was, and in turn, mourn the loss of the good old days. (That were no better than the now new days.)
It's a little like the Ecclesiastes 3 verses that the song Turn Turn Turn was derived from.
- There is a time to ride bikes to the Mississippi River and throw rocks, and a time to watch the river flow by with your kids.
- There is a time to share a bedroom with a brother and a time to share one with your wife.
- There is a time for staying up all night with your brother partying and a time for early to bed because your exhausted from being a new father.
- There is a time for eating dinner with 6 kids around the table and a time for eating alone on a business trip.
- There is a time for playing tackle football with your brothers and a time for watching your son play tackle football.
- There is a time for dating and a time for weddings.
- There is a time for college and a time for work
- A time for apartment and a time for a house
- A time for a new friend and a time for old friends
- A time for the Beatles and a time for Green Day
- A time for transistor radios and a time for iPods
Because all things in life are what you make of them. It can be drudgery or joy. The choice is yours. How do you want to live out your days. Your time is short. It may not seem that way. Tomorrow might seem like as far out as you can see. But when you have something as traumatic as losing a sibling at a young age, you see life out a whole lot further and suddenly, every day seems significant. Every week is a big week.
So my advice to you is to go out and make your life bigger. Bigger than TV. Bigger than the next toy or electronic. Bigger than your car, your house, your school, or your posessions. Bigger.